Reason, season or lifetime!

Today, I was clearing the all forwards which I received last week. I again came across a beautiful and thought provoking one on friendship or relationships! The same old forward on how people come into your life for reason, season and lifetime... I 'm almost sure that most of us would have seen this at some point or the other. But then I can't help sharing it. It may be a crime if I don't! It goes as follows:

"A Reason, a Season, or a LifetimePeople come into your life for a reason, a season, ora lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, youwill know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It isusually to meet a need you have expressed. They havecome to assist you through a difficulty, to provide youwith guidance and support, to aid you physically,emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like agodsend, and they are! They are there for the reasonyou need them to be.Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at aninconvenient time, this person will say or do somethingto bring the relationship to an end.Sometimes they die.Sometimes they walk away.Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.What we must realise is that our need has been met, ourdesire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer yousent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.They may teach you something you have never done.They usually give you an unbelievable amountof joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; thingsyou must build upon in order to have a solid emotionalfoundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love theperson, and put what you have learned to use in allother relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Author Unknown"

If you are interested in a musical one with images, check the below site:
http://www.inspiringthots.net/movie/reason-season.php

Recently, I was looking for something and stumbled across the following link where people were trying to find who wrote these beautiful verses. I'm not sure who wrote it. But I read it first in 2002. So the claims that it was written in 2004 is wrong! It may have been written by " Brian A. "Drew" Chalker" as many sites claim. I cannot prove or disprove it! If you are interested in reading more on the controversy, you can check the below link.
http://www.anvari.org/fun/Misc/Reason_Season_Lifetime.html

No matter who wrote, it is one of my favourites. And the author has written a very thought provoking piece. And it makes me wonder, why and how long you are going to be in my life - A reason, a season or a lifetime!

Friend and secret keeper

Its so long since I wrote my last blog. Not that I don't have anything to write... Issue is time and time alone... How can I do all those things I love to do or hate to do but have to do in mere 24 hours? 1440 minutes? 86400 seconds? Impossible! That is my problem! Now, what I want to write today is about friends or friendship. I do not have any structure in my mind, but writing as I think.

I was just reading a forward today which goes like this....

" Sometimes in life, you find a special friend...

Someone who changes your life just by being part of it...

Someone who makes you laugh until you can't stop...

Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world.

Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it...... "

Hmm.. Ya, definitely. Some people come into your life and they stay! Some move on to find better things in life. No matter what happens, you are never the same. You may say that change is natural way of life and you can defend it and go on. Yes, but you willingly change for some people and you are forced in other cases. Whether the change made is making you a better person is the question here, I think. Positive influences and negative ones, exactly makes all the difference.

I have had many friends in my life. Never had a very close one... May be I never allowed anyone to come closer. May be, I was scared of sharing my inner most thoughts with anybody other than me, myself! But then all of us are not like that. People share everything, including the personal fears. Sharing makes the relationship better? I don't know... I can only say - May be! But then, most of my friends thought of me as their secret keeper. They shared their inner most thoughts and fears with me. I was careful with all those information. I was the guard, the secret keeper! People trusted me and I never broke the trust. My problem with sharing my issues may have been routed from this secret keeper business. If people trust me as their secret keeper, how can I find another secret keeper for myself. May be I never had the time to find one after solving everyones problems. May be I thought that their problems are so large and complex in comparison to mine and it is not worth the effort.

It is nice to be friends with so many people. Listen to people, help them overcome their fears, fight with them, make up and all the while observing the very basic human behaviour. Slowly you can even identify their feelings without words. As one of my friends say, identify them through their smell! If you ask me whether it is a burden, I don't have an answer. But then, sometimes you have to deal with jealousy, selfishness and above all possesiveness. I really don't care too much for these three areas especially when I'm a party to it! But then again, these also are a part and parcel of everday life.

Anyway, I remained as a friend to all, but without having a best friend. Not that I' m complaining. But then, sometimes you feel that you are becoming a complaint box. Hmm.. all for friendship! And it is one of the most beautiful relationships! A relationship to cheish!

Weight loss - My top most desire

Losing weight is my top most desire these days. I want to lose some 10 to 15kgs and go back to how I used to look like in my college days - Slim!! I really don't know how to do it. I tried dieting and exercise in full swing. Different diets, different exercises, shortcuts, trying to improve metabolism.... My issue like so many other around me is doing the program for long. I am not sure if I lack motivation or dedication to the cause. Nothing is working and I don't see any improvement fast enough for me to see and I lose interest in continuing. I do know that I may have to sustain my efforts to reach my required results... But alas!





I was thinking why I don't lose weight even when I exercise or diet and found an article:
http://www.thedietchannel.com/Weight-Loss-Truths-and-Myths.htm
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6 common reasons why we don’t lose weight
Many of our social interactions include food.
Restaurants portions have increased (particularly fast food).
We are less active than in the past.
We find it unacceptable to be hungry.
We misunderstand how weight is maintained.
We forget the extra food we eat everyday, or we think we ate less than we did.
It’s also important to remember that when we consume fewer calories we have a tendency to be less active, which probably stems from our biological programming to preserve body weight for survival.
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Hmm...! What do you say?
I think the main reason why I don't lose weight is because I'm not really ready to do this. May be, I don't want it so desperately and is not ready to do everything needed to achieve this goal. It may not be really true!! No... I want it... Overweight makes me sad... I hate it... I don't like my pictures taken... I don't people asking me to lose weight! But then, what is preventing me from going all out and doing everything it takes me to do it? I really don't know.

But then, here I'm deciding to do everything I can to lose weight. It's my promise to myself.

Long weekend...

The long weekend is over! Again back to busy life in office and dealines! If you ask me whether I enjoyed my weekend and I don't want to lie, I have to answer affirmative. What made me happy and what did not is what I would try to share here....

I went out of Bangalore to see mountains, waterfalls and breath some good air. I did all that and some:-) As usual I carried by camera, binoculars, notebook, ipod, trekking shoes and a book to read... I utilised each one of that... It was so nice looking at those mountain ranges lying in a hammock with my ipod or that book in hand. I woke up eveyday listening to birds and watching them chattering... What marvellous colours... And so carefree... Life was so slow... there was no hurry to complete anything...

We went trekking, lazy walks in the resort and had some quiet time... Sometime with each other and also apart. We went for safari in the morning and night... We saw herds of elephants, bisons, some monkeys, spotted dear, more peacocks and a lot of birds. I sat around the campfire listening to people talk and guessing where they are from:-) Life was so simple in those days. I know, I have tucked many memories to last a few months at least!

My only bad memory is those tears which spilled out because of his careless words. But then, I can't blame him. So, over all I enjoyed my commune with nature and time away from the ways of city... I smiled and laughed a lot! May be I did a lot of talking to myself too...

I love rain!!!

I love rain! What about you?

I went to Kerala to enjoy rain, or should I say, rainy season... The season I love best!
Hmm... It was really nice..
Rain's playfullness, rain's fury, calm after a rain - What more should you witness to complete your rain experience?
Sitting in the veranda of my aunt's house, sipping hot tea and parippuvada(Channa dal vada)
(For recipe, check this link:
http://dailygirlblog.blogspot.com/2005/12/chana-dal-vada-parippu-vada.html)
I can't help my mouth watering in that memory... It was such a carefree moment with no thoughts other than how many more vadas can I eat:-)

I also took sometime to walk on the grass and feel the moisture on my bare feet. I walked in the drizzle and rain without an umbrella. The satisfaction I got in getting drenched was liberating. The lie I had to say why I got drenched was worth it.

I listened to the night rain and the changes in its rhythm. I watched that firefly who came into the room to escape the rain. Only thing I missed is the smell of rain! But then, I should say I have made enough memories to carry on till next year...

My love for rain took me to other blogs on rain...
I found another rain blog by Firefly which I would like to share: http://whileitrains.blogspot.com/
There are some 5-6 post but, the posts are really sweet...
If you are a rain lover and have some spare time, I think you should go through it...

Top of the world:-)

Today, I can feel the new rhythm in my steps....
The breeze which passes by is singing a new tune...
There are flowers everywhere....
Life has a new meaning...
I'm singing again!

What is happening to me? I'm just happy today... may be happy beyond all measures:-)
Life is simply beautiful and I just cant explain what I'm feeling now....
But why? Don't you get it?
I'm in love and fallen for you again...

It hurts

It hurts when people don't seem to care about you... May be seems is the key word. It is your perception, it need not be the truth. But still, it hurts. You feel lonely, unwanted!

There are few sides to this...

Scenario 1: People don't really care about you - Period
Scenario 2: People care about you, you dont realise it / believe that it is possible

Lets us see what it means and how you should see it...

Scenario 1: People don't really care about you - Period! Can you do something about that? If not, forget it! If yes, what are you waiting for if that is what you want. I would assume that you have a need to feel wanted and cared about. When people whom you care about don't care and hurt you - Won't you go all out and correct it? Make them love you, care about you, want you?? How you do it varies from person to person and situation to situation. Since you have a goal, things are easy!

Scenario 2: People care about you, you dont realise it/ believe that it is possible - What do I say? Ya, there are people who feel that they are not worth it and hence believe that nobody can possibly care about them and get hurt as the end result... I guess they are the ones who psycologists term as people with low self esteem! They are not confident or feel that they are beautiful or desirable or smart or whatever it is bothering them. What is is missing is self realisation. Chances are that you are not beautiful, but is that the only thing which is lacking? If so, understand your strengths and utilise them to your complete advantage. It may not help if the other person is bothered only about your beauty!

But is it worth getting hurt?? Dont you deserve better? What can be changed and what not?
May be you need to sit down and a SWOT analysis on your life! Tick those strengths, cross those weaknesses, search those opportunities and eliminate your threats! I know! It is not as simple as it seems. You need to ruthlessly brutal about this categorisation and act on it. What do you have to loose? A heart which is already broken / hurt cant be further hurt, right?

Give it a try. See the results... You may start believing in yourself!