Reason, season or lifetime!

Today, I was clearing the all forwards which I received last week. I again came across a beautiful and thought provoking one on friendship or relationships! The same old forward on how people come into your life for reason, season and lifetime... I 'm almost sure that most of us would have seen this at some point or the other. But then I can't help sharing it. It may be a crime if I don't! It goes as follows:

"A Reason, a Season, or a LifetimePeople come into your life for a reason, a season, ora lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, youwill know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It isusually to meet a need you have expressed. They havecome to assist you through a difficulty, to provide youwith guidance and support, to aid you physically,emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like agodsend, and they are! They are there for the reasonyou need them to be.Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at aninconvenient time, this person will say or do somethingto bring the relationship to an end.Sometimes they die.Sometimes they walk away.Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.What we must realise is that our need has been met, ourdesire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer yousent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.They may teach you something you have never done.They usually give you an unbelievable amountof joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; thingsyou must build upon in order to have a solid emotionalfoundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love theperson, and put what you have learned to use in allother relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Author Unknown"

If you are interested in a musical one with images, check the below site:
http://www.inspiringthots.net/movie/reason-season.php

Recently, I was looking for something and stumbled across the following link where people were trying to find who wrote these beautiful verses. I'm not sure who wrote it. But I read it first in 2002. So the claims that it was written in 2004 is wrong! It may have been written by " Brian A. "Drew" Chalker" as many sites claim. I cannot prove or disprove it! If you are interested in reading more on the controversy, you can check the below link.
http://www.anvari.org/fun/Misc/Reason_Season_Lifetime.html

No matter who wrote, it is one of my favourites. And the author has written a very thought provoking piece. And it makes me wonder, why and how long you are going to be in my life - A reason, a season or a lifetime!

Friend and secret keeper

Its so long since I wrote my last blog. Not that I don't have anything to write... Issue is time and time alone... How can I do all those things I love to do or hate to do but have to do in mere 24 hours? 1440 minutes? 86400 seconds? Impossible! That is my problem! Now, what I want to write today is about friends or friendship. I do not have any structure in my mind, but writing as I think.

I was just reading a forward today which goes like this....

" Sometimes in life, you find a special friend...

Someone who changes your life just by being part of it...

Someone who makes you laugh until you can't stop...

Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world.

Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it...... "

Hmm.. Ya, definitely. Some people come into your life and they stay! Some move on to find better things in life. No matter what happens, you are never the same. You may say that change is natural way of life and you can defend it and go on. Yes, but you willingly change for some people and you are forced in other cases. Whether the change made is making you a better person is the question here, I think. Positive influences and negative ones, exactly makes all the difference.

I have had many friends in my life. Never had a very close one... May be I never allowed anyone to come closer. May be, I was scared of sharing my inner most thoughts with anybody other than me, myself! But then all of us are not like that. People share everything, including the personal fears. Sharing makes the relationship better? I don't know... I can only say - May be! But then, most of my friends thought of me as their secret keeper. They shared their inner most thoughts and fears with me. I was careful with all those information. I was the guard, the secret keeper! People trusted me and I never broke the trust. My problem with sharing my issues may have been routed from this secret keeper business. If people trust me as their secret keeper, how can I find another secret keeper for myself. May be I never had the time to find one after solving everyones problems. May be I thought that their problems are so large and complex in comparison to mine and it is not worth the effort.

It is nice to be friends with so many people. Listen to people, help them overcome their fears, fight with them, make up and all the while observing the very basic human behaviour. Slowly you can even identify their feelings without words. As one of my friends say, identify them through their smell! If you ask me whether it is a burden, I don't have an answer. But then, sometimes you have to deal with jealousy, selfishness and above all possesiveness. I really don't care too much for these three areas especially when I'm a party to it! But then again, these also are a part and parcel of everday life.

Anyway, I remained as a friend to all, but without having a best friend. Not that I' m complaining. But then, sometimes you feel that you are becoming a complaint box. Hmm.. all for friendship! And it is one of the most beautiful relationships! A relationship to cheish!